A while ago, I called an old friend I hadn’t talked to in a while. As we caught up, shared stories, and laughed over private jokes that sounded ridiculous, I wondered why I let so much time go by since I’d last given her a call.
We don’t live close to each other, so meeting up isn’t an option. But really connecting with her, sharing pieces of my life and receiving the pieces she wants to give, didn’t require specific geography.
You can be great friends to each other, regardless the distance, if you choose to make the effort. If you remember to make the time, you can have those types of meaningful, fulfilling conversations that make you feel seen, understood, appreciated, and supported.
I thought about all the times when we’ve gotten busy and lost touch with friends who live right down the street—times when we got caught up in everything going on in our lives and forgot to nurture our relationships.
You need meaningful connections with other people.
Not everyone has to be a close friend, but it’s integral to your happiness that you show people who you truly are, allow yourself to know them in return, and then remind each other through actions—small or large—that you care.
You never need to be or feel alone in this world, but it’s up to you to create and allow opportunities to be together, enjoy each other, and be there for each other. It’s up to you to make your relationships priorities.
With this in mind, I recently asked on my WhatsApp, “What does it mean to be a true friend?”
I compiled the first three of the ideas that resonated strongly with me - all paraphrased.
A true friend is reliable, trust worthy and selfless. - Golden Boy
True friendship is based on one thing only. Willingness to sacrifice - Omokehinde
Loyalty - Steffi
Show Up - Anon
Gatt the person’s back - Abies
Supportive - Sisi
I’ll add: Be real. Be honest. Be supportive. Be prayerful. Listen always.
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I know the world is somehow rn and everyone is extremely selective of who they let in. Needless to say, people are lonely and need a good friend(s). The fact of the matter is we are all wired for meaningful relationships.
It takes a lot of work and commitment to be a great friend. But it is worth it. Keep in mind there are people all around you who are looking for friends. So, continue developing good friends and your life will be far better for it.
Making friends can be a very difficult task. Are you having a hard time making friends?
me too. 🥺😂
Let’s talk about our journey in the next letter.
Love you,
🤍❤️